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Silva Neves
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Silva Neves

Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist

“Remind yourself that your partner is not wanting to have sex with your genitals, they want to have sex with YOU”

12+

years' experience

Qualifications 🏅

  • Certificate in: EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing Therapy)
  • Postgraduate Diploma in: Psychosexual & Relationship Therapy
  • Certificate in: Online Counselling
  • Advanced Diploma in: Counselling & Psychotherapy
  • Certificate in: Couples Therapy
  • Diploma in: Eating Disorders
  • Certificate in: Somatic Trauma Therapy

Affiliates 🤝

  • Accredited by: COSRT (College of Sexual & Relationship Therapists)
  • Registered with: UKCP (United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy)
  • Course Director with: CICS (Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology)
  • Clinical Associate: Pink Therapy (Gender & Sexual Diversity Therapy)

Q&A with Silva Neves

Silva Neves

Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist

Tell us a bit about yourself

I’m a fully qualified, experienced, and accredited psychotherapist. I specialize in psychosexual and relationship therapy, couples therapy, and the treatment of compulsive sexual behaviours. I am also a trauma psychotherapist experienced in working with survivors of sexual abuse. I’ve held my full time private practice for over 10 years and love my work. I also offer clinical supervision to psychotherapists to help them enhance their practice.

As a Pink Therapy Clinical Associate, i’m committed to working with people of all sexual orientations and gender expressions, and campaign for people’s fundamental rights to sexual health, sexual pleasure and wellbeing.

In addition to my clinical work, I enjoy teaching therapists the specialist areas of psychosexual therapy. I am a course director for CICS (Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology).

I also love writing about therapy and wellbeing. I’m an editorial board member of the journal ‘Sex and Relationship Therapy’, and my first book was published in 2021.  

Where are you from?

France. Although my name is Portuguese, I grew up in France so I identify as French. My father is Portuguese and my mother is French.

Tell us more about your role – what does your day look like?

My days are all different, I’m lucky to have a diversity of professional interests (clinical work, teaching and writing), so I’m busy juggling all of these things. Each of my appointments lasts for 50 minutes, so my days tend to be sectioned in 50 minute slots, with 10 minutes between each to refill my cup of coffee, have a stretch, and pet my cat (these are the perks of working from home online). I also carve out some time for thinking and writing.

What one piece of advice would you give to someone who couldn’t get out of their head during sex with a partner?

Remind yourself that your partner is not wanting to have sex with your genitals, they want to have sex with YOU, so, show up with all of your imperfections and your anxieties, talk to your partner about them, and your bond and intimacy is likely to get stronger.

What do you love most about your job?

Helping people in a meaningful way.  

What drew you to work with Mojo?

I think Mojo is a fantastic platform that is easily accessible and packed with wonderful and helpful strategies for people with sexual problems. For some people, it can be daunting to see a therapist for sexual issues, Mojo is the perfect place to start the process of self-discovery and getting some tried and tested practical strategies before deciding to make the leap to sex therapy. It is also a great platform to use alongside therapy. Indeed, Mojo is recommended by many sex therapists!

What’s your favorite Mojo course?

I honestly think they’re all good because each of them make up a whole. When it comes to our sex and romantic lives, there’s always something new to learn, to discover, to reflect on… the erotic and intimate possibilities are endless.

Tell us something that not many people know about you...

My go-to karaoke song is ‘It’s Raining Men’ by the Weather Girls. But I’m a terrible singer. Very, very bad. You only want to give me the mic when you need to clear out the room at the end of the night.

Where else can you find Silva Neves?

Find my book here: Compulsive Sexual Behaviours: A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians (Routledge, 2021)

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